Thank You Daddy for Being 'The Man'

By Ruth Kan
31 May, 2016

Your Chinese name is 简文石 (Jian Wen Shi). This name is so fitting for you and it really describes you as a person and who you are to me.

简 (Jian) can be translated as being simple and uncomplicated. You are a person who is easily contented and things like status and recognition are not important to you. Rather, you place a high importance on family and spending time together.

I remember when I was a little girl, we were living in Hong Kong and you would take me hiking almost every weekend. You would tell me stories from your youth and I remember enjoying listening to all your adventures and the mischief you got yourself into. I also fondly remember you putting me on your shoulders when I eventually got too tired from walking. Those times spent together showed me that you like hanging out with me and that I'm an important part of your life.

I'm thankful that through my growing up years, having you around the house or eating together at the dinner table every night is a norm. Your presence simply tells me that you love us.

文 (wen), can be loosely translated as 'word' and to me you are indeed a man of your word; a man of principles. When you say you would do something, you would do it even if it means inconvenience for you. And because of that I know I can trust you completely.

You taught me that my character, who I am as a person is more important than my academic results and thankfully because of that I never felt I needed to "perform" in school to gain your approval. I knew I just had to do my best and you would still love me.

石 (Shi) is the last character and it means rock. Thank you for always being the unshakable rock in the family. You are the man that my mom, my sister and I look to for direction. Your ability to keep calm under pressure and make sound judgments is what makes me feel so safe with you.

The way you have treated mommy is also something that has left a deep imprint on me. You have been a faithful husband and have always treated her as an equal partner in marriage. You value her opinions and would make decisions together.

What I also admire is that you help out with chores like buying groceries, mopping the floor and doing the dishes. You showed me how to love through serving.

The way you are as a husband and father has set such a high standard for me. When it was time for me to choose my life partner, I already had a good idea of what kind of man I should be looking for. Thankfully, I found a wonderful man who I love and respect.

Now that I'm a mother of two, my husband and I are devoted to spending time with them just like what you and mommy did for me. I too want my children to grow up feeling loved and secure.

There are so many things to say about you, Daddy. I know you are not perfect but your positive influence on me far outweighs any blemishes in our relationship.

If I can put it candidly, you are really “The Man”. You have been the man who I have looked up to as a girl and will continue looking up to for encouragement as I grow my own family.

I love you very much daddy and I'm so proud to have you as my father. I hope I would take more opportunities and courage in the future to express my affection towards you.

Ruth has been married for six years to a fun and spontaneous man who teaches her to live in the moment. She is a also a stay-at-home-mom to two zestful boys who make her cry and laugh every day. Cleaning the house and crafting are things she finds therapeutic.

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