The values we impart in the early stages of our children’s lives will help them grow to be self-confident and independent adults. Up to the age of seven, children are like sponges, absorbing everything around them. This period is the most important time to help them form values and learn a sense of right and wrong.
Values influence how children behave in the classroom, interact with peers and develop ethical standards and even good manners. It’s certainly an aspect of parenting that every loving and hands-on parent must focus on.
Examine your own values and determine what’s important for your family and what values you want to see in your children. List them on a family bulletin board and place it somewhere visible in the home! Here are top 3 values that will give your child a head start in life:
If we respect our children, they will learn to respect themselves as well as others. Respect helps children build self-esteem and feel secure. We can demonstrate respect by asking our children for their opinion on where to go on family outings or what to cook for dinner; we can teach a child respect for other people’s things by not letting them rummage through our drawers and cupboards; or asking for permission before taking someone else’s belongings.
Respect helps children build self-esteem and feel secure.
Teaching a child responsibility helps her learn to take care of herself, excel in school, and work diligently at a job someday. Teach our kids how to keep their toys after play. Do it with them, but not for them.
Remember to give appropriate praise after that to reinforce the positive behaviour. If your child loses a favourite toy she was responsible for keeping, don’t buy her a new one immediately. Read books to your child where the main character showed responsibility, and discuss what the character did well afterwards.
Resilience allows children to overcome adversity and maintain a healthy self-esteem even when things go wrong. Teach our children not to give up by encouraging them to try again, whether it’s a block tower that keeps falling over or a difficult word to spell. Model resilience by letting them observe us hard at work, or do something challenging together like mending a broken toy or mastering a recipe.
Resilience allows children to overcome adversity and maintain a healthy self-esteem even when things go wrong.
We live in a society that emphasises the importance of academic success. However, it is important to recognise that intentionally imparting values is a vital component of parenting.
Indeed, it is the values taught that will help them to navigate the inevitable challenges that arise and ultimately guide our children to success.
This article was first published on MindChamps and republished with permission.
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