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Are You All In for Life?

It's all or nothing in keeping it together in marriage

By Greg Smalley
9 Jun, 2016

In the movie Gravity, George Clooney and Sandra Bullock play astronauts marooned in orbit after their craft is destroyed by space debris. In order to get back to Earth alive, they must work together. They must have a rock-solid commitment to the task at hand. It won’t be easy. Sacrifice will be involved.

Or think about your favorite sport. The teams that win championships are those who are unified in their commitment to one another and to working, well, as a team! Hall of Fame basketball coach Pat Riley once said, “There are only two options regarding commitment. You’re either in or out. There is no such thing as life in-between.” And NFL coach Mike Shanahan has said, “Individual commitment to a group effort—that’s what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilisation work.”

And it’s also what makes a marriage work! Thriving couples believe that lifelong marriage is possible, and they work together to make it happen. “Until death do us part” is not just a segment of their wedding vows, it’s a mission statement. A committed husband and wife say to one another, “We’re in this for the long haul, and we’re in this together.”

Just like a mission in outer space or a championship football game, marriage brings its own set of challenges and obstacles. Married couples expect the journey to include hardships, dangers, and rocky passages—but also mountaintop views and ocean vistas. Because of this, they’re not afraid to press on together, taking life as it comes and living each day to the full.

Adapted from For Life by Dr Greg Smalley © 2014 All rights reserved. Used by permission from Focus on the Family.

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